” I say, “Come on, you can drop the ‘at the moment’.
I’m single forever.”’ Norton’s words struck a chord with me, because – at the age of 46 – I too have wondered whether I am resigned to being single forever.
‘I’m 52 and I’m single and on some level I feel like I’ve failed because by the time you’re my age, you really should be settled.’ So said British TV host Graham Norton to the Daily Mail this week in an interview in which he suggested that he had resigned himself to being without a partner for the rest of his life.
‘I’ve reached the point that when people ask, “Are you single at the moment?
In fact, there have probably been around a dozen boyfriends over the last 28 years, with periods of singledom between each one. I don’t feel it with a sense of panic, or last-minute desperation, but simply nonchalant resignation that perhaps it won’t happen for me.
It’s not that I’ve never been in relationships; I’ve been in plenty. And like an X Factor contestant who has just been shot down by Simon Cowell, it’s hard not to wonder sometimes whether one should actually be chasing a different dream.With so many options and the convenience of the apps, one might assume that we are more likely to assuage our loneliness than we could without them. Excessive use can do as much good for our mental state as devouring two extra-large Mc Donald’s fries at in the morning can do for our physical health.In much the same way that fast foods offer quick, easy satiety or comfort but can damage the body via refined sugars, sodium, and cholesterol, hookup apps offer quick connection but can damage the psyche — and the body. According to a study published in 2006 in , 53.4 percent of Americans have no close friends or confidants outside of their immediate family, which is troubling as it’s up 17 percent since 1985.They may be geographically remote, or part of a constrained social group.Or they could just be lonely and looking for friends or a partner.