In the world of Colombian dating, bad Spanish does not serve as much of an aphrodisiac.Winning someone’s affections requires you to be charming, funny, complimentary and smooth – none of which is possible if you’re stuttering away in heavily-accented Spanglish.I am aware of the underworld of sex tourism in Colombia and I am aware that there are many strip clubs, and brothels in Medellin.Strippers and hookers are not the type of girls that I date, so I will not be referring to that in this post. My situation is a little different than most foreigners here in Colombia.It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single girl in possession of a job in Colombia must be in want of a date. Ostensibly a bar for foreigners to participate in a language exchange with Colombians, and actually a great way to make friends, after about 9pm it morphs into a free-for-all speed dating service between gringos and locals.All across the city of Bogotá, and indeed the rest of the country, gringa girls living and working in Colombia are pairing up with local boys – at a staggering rate! Ask anyone about it, go and check it out, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.It seems to be a match made in heaven – the Colombian males, who are fascinated with foreign women, and the young English girls, who are 6,000 miles away from home for the first time. It’s fair to say that for people in their early twenties in England, dating culture hasn’t really taken off – at least, not like it has in America.
So, even while you’re not in a relationship with someone just because you went on a date, it’s important to know that going for a casual drink with a guy would be considered a date in Colombia.
This isn’t to say to be “juiciosa” is to be boring, but just that there are certain types of attributes and behaviors that Colombian men value in the women that they date.
It all depends on the relationship, but this is where clear communication and understanding comes into extreme importance.
It can be really challenging, especially if this is your first relationship with a Colombian man and especially if you don’t have other Gringa friends who have been in relationships with Colombian men to ask advice. I haven’t lived with my parents since I was 17 and none of my past boyfriends lived in the same states as their families. For me, manicured nails, makeup, and perfectly smooth legs was never really my priority (you could say I grew up more of a “beach scrub”). Colombian men, and Colombian culture in general, expect groomed and well-presented women.
Here are some differences between Colombian dating culture and dating culture in the United States, and my suggestions on how to address them: Colombian men are family men. So all of a sudden having Colombian in-law’s that I saw on a weekly basis and that messaged me every other day and that asked me personal questions was a bit overwhelming. Colombian dating culture also prefers women who are “juiciosa”.