Jerry came to counseling because he was tired of being so shy and wanted to be able to meet women and eventually marry and have a family.He knew that his current path was not leading him in the right direction, and he was very upset about it. I helped him with conversational skills, assertiveness skills, and with building self-esteem and confidence. Nevertheless, within three years he became president of a fraternity, had all the dates he wanted, had lots of friends, and had changed his major to one requiring a high level of interpersonal skills.I mentioned my predicament to Jessica, and she excitedly revealed that her good friend had just moved to the city I was visiting.
In fact, emotional manipulators and abusers are banking on you being naive enough to actually believe this.
Jerry was 21, but had made only one friend in his life.
That "friend" was actually someone who had used him.
He used individual counseling, an assertion training group, and self-help books. More importantly, he was much happier with himself and his life. Most people I see don't start at such a low level and only want or need much less help.
If you think you have a long way to go, then it is helpful to know that others have gone even further.