Wow, we have so much in common…) ———- Am I the only one who’s a liiiittle sick of all the small talk that is requisite in dating? Last week I read an article in the NY Times about a woman who, with a man she was on a first date with, decided to try to fall in love by going through a list of tested questions that get supposedly progressively more probing and exposing.This normally, or ideally, happens gradually over time but in this case, it is given a catalyst – structure that helps it happen in a more accelerated way.Bar hopping to meet people on the weekend can be exhausting and online dating can be too impersonal, not to mention scary at times. but it’s knowing what speed dating questions to ask that is the problem!
People in general asked an average of 10 questions per date. Unless you’re extremely confident or really smooth, the first few minutes can play a big part in whether your first date will have a happy ending or not.First dates are a bit like a job interview, but yet, they should never ever feel like a job interview.That’s all great because I truly believe that a major issue in dating is the objectification of the other – forgetting that they are, in fact, completely human, just as you are.And so any attempt to help us remember that, no matter if we decided to go on another date with them or not, is welcome in my books. When I started reading through the questions, I didn’t like them.