I was married at 19 years old to a man I knew for 3 months and now after 14 years of marriage, here I am suddenly a 33-year-old single mom with 3 children.For the first time in my life, I am actually dating and yes, this entire situation is every bit as disastrous as it sounds. You will feel lonely and miss companionship but the worst thing you can do is rush into something new with someone who simply "fills" your time. The only person that decides how much you are worth is you. Have a platonic guy friend that gives it to you straight.Do you feel sorry for him and want to “fix” his life? He tells you to wear his favorite color or certain types of clothing when going out on a date (or he buys you clothes to wear.) He tells you how and when to do everything.Entering the dating pool again as a divorced woman has taught me a lot about myself.He lavishes you at the finest of restaurants and is always bragging about how much money he has. He expects you to drive and never offers to pay for gas. He may say things like, “I am a jack of all trades,” “I make money in a variety of ways” or “It’s complicated.” Questions to ask yourself: What is he hiding? Questions to ask yourself: What are the circumstances? Does he have a solid plan to venture out on his own? Everything that comes out of his mouth has a negative aura about it.
Chances are you will meet some wonderful – and not so wonderful – men during your journey. He admits to having several children with various women. (especially if there are young children involved.) Dating Red Flag #5 – Where Does He Live?
Your responsibility is to know exactly what you want in a man and to keep your eyes open for potential red flags. He spends money frivolously and likes to flash wads of money. You have been dating for a month or two and he has yet to articulate what he does for a living. Questions to ask yourself: Were the mama’s pregnant at the same time? You just find out the man you have been dating is living with his mom or in his sister’s basement.
He drives an expensive, fast fancy car, wears a rolex and expensive jewelry, clothing and other accessories. He appears nice enough, but conveniently avoids answering personal questions about himself. Another scenario could be that he crashes with various friends or lives with a couple of women.
You can’t start going on dates and expect to find your happiness in these men. In order for dating after divorce to be successful and fulfilling, you first need to ensure that your inner happiness and confidence is alive and well.
Source: Shutterstock So you’ve been single for a while now and you miss having a male companion at your side.