My therapist reminded me how insecurity is at the core of the fear of commitment. Last but not least, we work great together creatively. We talked about Jessie quitting the experiment, and what happened a couple days ago. Jessie was very open today about being interested in me. For example, if I can use the “Baseball Metaphor” in a different way: watching baseball is long and boring and the excitement spreads over 9 innings, but if you catch the highlights on ESPN then you get to see all the action jammed into a two-minute span. I talked to my personal therapist about Tim’s fear of trying this with me, despite his obvious interest. He understands my passion for design, but we don’t need to talk about it all the time. Also, lately she’s had her glasses on and her hair up, which I’m a sucker for. How do you feel about this relationship/project right now? I guess they believe this because, (1), it’s been so long that they forgot what it’s like and, (2), they’re only hearing the highlights. Jocelyn brought up an interesting point: How often do you ever get to hear what people really think about you?For some reason, says educator Al Vernacchio, the metaphors for talking about sex in the US all come from baseball — scoring, getting to first base, etc.Over breakfast, my wife said, "Picture this: You have a friend named George, and money is no object to George. George likes baseball so much that he'll watch any kind of game from professional to little league.George knows that you like the Kansas City Royals and he invites you to Royals games across the country all the time. "One day George invites you to the Royals game in Miami, and you're excited to go. No one went to a Royals game last night." "When we had sex—I didn't get to go to the Royals game." referring to the extent of the other young man's sexual experience.My wife immediately asked whether the common English expression "to go all the way," referring to sexual intercourse, would be that similar in Japanese.
Instead, he takes you to a little league baseball field and informs you that he wants to watch a little league game in Texas instead of the Royals in Miami. " "Well," I said, "I'd probably be mad at George and tell him to drop me off at a sports bar on the way to the little league game." I'm not a brilliant man, but I did begin to comprehend that there was something more to the story that she wasn't telling me. And two, the Royals weren't playing in Texas, where we live, for another month, so I knew she wasn't trying to surprise me with tickets. "I wanted to tell you that I didn't get to go the Royals game last night," she said. The Kansas City Royals have been referred to as the laughingstock of baseball, and used as a punch-line in the movie , but this was probably the first time in Royals' history that they'd been referred to as an orgasm. Not necessarily in this order, I enjoy sports, traveling, reading, and having sex with my wife. She loves to talk about little details and only watches sports when I make her.So when she approached me less than a month after our marriage and used sex and baseball in the same sentence, I knew this was a detail I should probably listen to.With all of these guys, we talk and have a good time for a few hours over coffee.He asks me out for a second date, and takes down my phone number.