In this case, it’s about tapping into woman’s insecurities and confusion over male behavior, with the promise of understanding of learning what’s going on behind the scenes of a man’s mind. “I don’t want a serious relationship right now.” WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS… without trying to change me or turning our relationship into MORE WORK and LESS FUN than I can have on my own.” Does this make sense?
“I ONLY WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a woman who already has her act together, is attractive, healthy, independent, easy-going, confident, and who is emotionally in control of herself and her own life.. Again, he’s NOT imagining a picture of an overly-emotional, predictable, needy woman who is trying to get him to connect with her and sharing her feelings because she’s so worried about things “working out.” In my google-searching, I found a post by this woman, who pretty much summarized his point of view.
And the second I saw this woman and I figured out that I really wanted to meet her, I would experience this total "lock-up" in my brain.
I was frozen to the spot, and I didn't know what to say or do.
He says something like “oh, you don’t think that was funny? Don’t try too hard ever, or you’d just look pathetic. Both of you don’t know the other person’s likes and dislikes.
All it takes is the first few minutes for her to make an impression about you.
Being a guy, that’s a pretty scary idea if you don’t know what it takes to impress a girl.
I I had to go over and talk to her in order to get anything started, but I couldn't seem to find a way to DO IT.
I almost felt like someone was holding me back physically, like being pinned to a wall.